Well explain to me your situation and i’ll try my best to help you :).
I don’t think explaining what i did last would help you
it sounds quite confusing to me… Perhaps try not talking to them as much after a date. Try to always leave them wanting more…
If you were to give me an example, explain in detail what happened id be able to help more if you need it xx
i don’t mean to sound rude or anything (if it sounds like i am), but i don’t see how answering this question would help you? What is it you need help with?
no don’t give up if you think you two could work. Just let him know that you’re there for him and that he can open up to you… Perhaps tell him again in person that you like him and see how he reacts… If he says he likes you too, ask him whether he’d ever want to take things further or not. If his friend has said that he has bad previous relationships it could be why he’s hesitating. He could be too scared to take things further when theyre already good because he doesn’t want things to end like how they have before with his ex’s. Get him to trust you enough so that he feels comfortable about speaking about his feelings and then think about taking things further
Don’t chase him and stop putting in as much effort with him, if he notices and it bothers him you’ll know that he either does like you or he likes your attention being on him. If he doesn’t at some point put in an equal amount of effort with you, you’ll know that he just likes your attention being on him which is obviously unfair and you could try not making an effort with him at all because then he might realise that if he wants you he has to make an effort too and that he can’t take advantage of your feelings
i dont think a four year age gap is bad as long as you’re both 16+… your age probably doesnt really matter to her but you’d probably feel better if she knew… say something like you don’t know what to do for your 18th 19th birthday whatever age it is, that way she’ll know :)
If you like her and she likes you just as much i really doubt your age will matter
in a good relationship you shouldn’t feel that you have to depend on the internet to have a good time… Perhaps not having the internet would be a good thing because you’d learn how to entertain eachother and have a good time instead of using the internet to keep you both entertained… Try doing something different, possibly going out and doing something more practical for a change?
you’re not in the wrong at all, if it were me i’d react in the same way… He’s bound to make it seem like you’re just being moody simply because he doesn’t like your reaction. At the end of the day he made plans with you, and to go and break those plans for an once with his friends is unfair. Ask him how he would feel if it were the other way round…
i’ve found that most guys love it when you do because it’s like you’re enjoying them if that makes sense? But it’s understandable if you don’t want to, and the guy should be fine with that if he likes you.
perhaps say little things like ‘i love spending time with you’ and gradually say more and more if he responds well
umh for some guys they get a little scared when a girl starts to get attached to them… I think the only way you’ll know is to talk to him about it… Ask him whether he wants to stay friends/seeing eachother or whether he would ever like to take it further x
If you were to ask me this months ago i would of said something completely different to what i’m about to say now… I think if you miss someone even after something that happened that’s bad enough to make you consider stop talking to them for good, you should speak to them again… You never know, she might miss your voice too…
I miss people that i no longer speak to, and i’d happily put everything behind us simply because i know that after all of the shit i still care… My problem is i’m so stubborn, and as much as i think about speaking to them again i can’t make the first move… I hope you’re not like me haha. But yeah you never know your ex might also afeel how i’m feeling… You won’t know unless you try
Hope that helps
& if you do speak to them again, good luck :)
Ah, i see… Since he apologised for it say it, but a little less harsh :P, something like “I’ve thought about what you said, and i think you’re right. I should move on, and I will.” ? Leave it at that, i wouldn’t reply if he texts back, at least not straight away anyway.
Like i said before, if it doesn’t bother him to see you’re fine without him then he isn’t worth it, and you never know, that acting like you’re okay might not last long, you might find that you don’t like him as much as you thought…
xxx
To be honest it sounds like he was using work as an excuse… He’s not worth your time, it was unfair of him to get with another girl in front of you. If he truly cared he wouldn’t of done that… If it were me i would talk to him, i would say something along the lines of “You know what, i’m actually going to listen to you and move on, you’re not the person i thought you was and you’re clearly not worth time.”
The reason i’d say that even if i did miss him is because if he does care deep down he won’t like what you said and he’ll think about it. If you do move on and he see’s that youre coping fine he might regret it.
I personally wouldn’t dwell on it sweet… If he’s worth it he’ll regret it, and if it doesn’t bother him to see you’re coping fine (acting fine), then he isn’t worth it. I know it’s easier said than done… Just stay strong… I’m here if you want to talk x
